Hello, my name is Natalia and I would like to tell you our story.
I have a son who will be 13 years old in December. He was born with significant problems and at one year of age was diagnosed with cerebral palsy and epilepsy. It is impossible to put across what it does to a mother when a doctor says that your child will never amount to anything and that you should take the easy way out by putting him into a home and having another baby instead.
I could not even begin to contemplate following this advice and neither could my husband who at that time supported me and said we would manage somehow.
As the years went by, every day was a struggle with a myriad of problems and I could see no improvement in my special boy. He has severely increased muscle tone throughout his body which affects his ability to move. When he was little he cried all the time and it was impossible to soothe him even with medicine. I could not leave him alone for a single minute.
My husband started coming home late after work, having been drinking. When our son reached his fifth birthday, my husband announced, ‘It’s either me or the child!’. How could I possibly give up my son. I loved him and still do love him so much. It was absolutely out of the question for me to send him somewhere where his quality of life would be worse than the one I can provide. So that is why my boy’s daddy has not lived with us for the past eight years.